I spoke about golden nuggets a while back. I'll share one I saw yesterday. I was waiting for the bus to go into the city and when it came, the driver got out of his seat, went and picked up a pram/stroller from the luggage rack, got off the bus with it, and set it up for a mom who was getting off the bus with her toddler. (That would not happen in Chicago.)
Occasionally, I remember to have a look at a blog called This Marriage Thing and just spotted something called The Gratitude Project. I'm doing #3 & #4 in this post. I don't know if I'll have a chance to say thank you three times a day for 10 days to my hubs, but I can try. I do always try to thank him for what he does do, because I sure nag him enough on the things he doesn't;) I'm contemplating doing the grocery shop alone today, even though I don't feel like I should have to. It's something we always do together and I did it myself last time. I have had time off work; hubs told me today I should do it myself because 1) I'm the housewife right now and 2) he has things to do. Now, the things he has to do are pick up an engine for his car and play with his toys (he's building up a car). Marriage is tricky. Do you let it go, and not think about the right and wrong all the time, in order to stick to fighting the fights that matter, or do you refuse to have food in the house because you think hubs should go with? I guess there's no right answer. While I think the old man should take an hour out to assist, I don't feel like nagging all day, so I think I will go it alone. Perhaps I'll get some gratitude in return.
Modified to add: My husband, who didn't even know about The Gratitude Project (until I told him afterwards) thanked me 3 times Saturday for 3 different things, and told me what a good wife I was. (Perhaps doing things like taking over grocery shopping responsibilities once in a while is a good thing!)
"Whereas the tourist generally hurries back home at the end of a few weeks or months, the traveler, belonging no more to one place than the next, moves slowly, over periods of years from one part of the earth to another." -Paul Bowles
2 comments:
You've got to give the natives credit for chivalry.
Hey, thanks for joining in, Suzer. Isn't it amazing how well it works.
What I really like is how it emphasizes how interconnected we are with the ones we love. Obvious point, yes, but easy to forget.
Who knows, maybe your hubby will do the shopping alone once he realizes how much you do.
Crossing my fingers for ya! Dina
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